Marriage problem solving: Marriage problems need not spell the end of a marriage. Marriage problems can be viewed as a stepping stone for greater marital bonding. It is like a wake-up call to bring your marriage/marriage to the next level. Most women treat marriage problems as a sign of incompatibility; that their husbands are not fulfilling their emotional needs, they don't cherish them etc etc, but that is because they do not have the resources to overcome their marriage problems.
The Core Innergization process is designed for this purpose and it needs only one to work on solving marriage problems. Marriage problems should be viewed as opportunities for your soul evolution. Marriage problems help you become a better person, if you learn from them. We will not become better people by being with a husband who agrees with everything that we do. There is just no room for your soul growth in that. Besides most women find it hard to respect a man who agrees with everything that they do.
You might think that working on your marriage problems at the spiritual altitude may take lots of energy and time. Au Contrariar! I have found that working from spiritual perspective, not only brought about lasting results, it worked much faster too, when you find the right tools and learn the lessons that your marriage problems are teaching you.
I am speaking from experience and the experience of people whom I have recommended spirit-based solutions to. I know of one woman who fought with her husband for 30 years, and through one simple spirit-based technique she overcame her problem overnight. Expect miracles is all I can say when you work with spiritual solutions.
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The Core Innergization Process for Marriage Problem Solving
The Core Innergization process is really an integration of NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) a powerful, outcome oriented form of brief therapy (and beyond) and spiritual practices such as prayer, visualization and meditation. Notice that all of these tools activate the law of attraction in a positive, empowering manner.
In general, a problem of any kind is defined as the present state being different from the desired state and you doubt your resources to move from one to the other.
The following steps are designed to provide you with the widest range of choices and resources to enable you to move to your desired state and achieve your desired outcome, that is save your marriage. Note that the steps, though generic, are suited to solving marriage issues, as much as any other. I decided to keep it generic because a self-esteem/lack of self-love issue may be nested deep within a marriage problem issue, which you must handle first.
I am of the belief that solutions to problems rarely come in one-size-fits-all cheap t-shirts. That is why it is more practical to adopt an integrated approach in using tools to solve marriage problems. Some tools/approach may solve some marriage problems but not others. They may be useful in some situations but not others. So it is essential to adopt flexibility in the usage of tools/approach and in doing so, you find that you can achieve your desired outcome of saving your marriage more quickly than if you adopted a rigid approach.
A marriage involves a 'we', 'you' and your 'husband'. When saving your marriage/marriage it is best that you work on 2 components
Firstly, work on the 'we' marriage component which means how you relate to your husband. This can be done through:
Enhancing the mental, physical, spiritual and emotional compatibility between you and your husband.
Enhancing patterns that enhance the 'we'.
Changing patterns that work against the 'we'.
Improving communication skills
Secondly, work on the 'you' component, which means how you relate to yourself, by doing the following
Clearing negative emotions/beliefs
Having your own goals
Taking on positive qualities that you desire
You may work on the 'we' component only, as a matter of priority. If you feel confident that that is enough and it gives you what you want, then great. The reason for improving the 'you' component is because 'we' is a part of 'you'. Whatever positive work that you do on the 'you' can only strengthen the 'we'. Also, it prevents the 'you' from negating any good work that you have done on the 'we' down the road. When you relate to yourself better, you also relate to your husband better.
